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The book: Spread Love & Acceptance. Its main tool is a ledger: a notebook where you write down what happened, so you can look at it calmly later. That is the idea of the whole book: write down what is really going on, and change the setup instead of blaming a person. It has three parts, read in this order: Part One is about you and is where the book begins; Part Two opens with its own Preface and then Chapters I to V, about the people you share a life, a home or a job with; Part Three explains how people work, chapter by chapter, for anyone. Every chapter ends with a link to the next one. More about the book

1. Part One: Yourself
   1. Then: where you came from · in depth
   2. Now: who you are today · in depth
   3. Next: who you are becoming · in depth
2. Part Two: Between us
   1. Preface to Part Two: The work nobody sees · in depth
   2. Chapter I: Why we get out of tune · in depth
   3. Chapter II: Is the split working? · in depth
   4. Chapter III: Full tanks and different angles · in depth
   5. Chapter IV: Two kinds of fair · in depth
   6. Chapter V: The monthly look-back · in depth
3. Part Three: Understanding people
   1. Chapter 1: How feelings work · in depth
   2. Chapter 2: Stress and the nervous system · in depth
   3. Chapter 3: How we see each other · in depth
   4. Chapter 4: How communication works · in depth
   5. Chapter 5: Attachment, trust and belonging · in depth
   6. Chapter 6: Habits and change · in depth
   7. Chapter 7: Self-worth, shame and self-compassion · in depth
   8. Chapter 8: Loss, grief and big life changes · in depth
   9. Chapter 9: Minds that work differently · in depth
   10. Chapter 10: Values, meaning and a good life · in depth
   11. Chapter 11: Healing after hurt · in depth
   12. Chapter 12: Helping others well · in depth
   13. Chapter 13: Anger: what it’s for and what to do with it · in depth
   14. Chapter 14: Personality, temperament and change across life · in depth
   15. Chapter 15: Closeness and love · in depth
   16. Chapter 16: Worry, low mood and trauma · in depth
   17. Chapter 17: Fitting in: groups, influence and culture · in depth
4. Afterword
   1. What the book adds up to · in depth

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