Roadmap

What’s live and what’s next

The whole book is free to read: 26 chapters in three parts, and an afterword. Ten workpapers (worksheets) and two calculators are built, along with the tools, guides and calm corner listed below. Everything that is live is free and open to everyone, with no sign-up, no account and no paid version. If you’d like a note when something new goes live, leave your email.

Things are added to this page the day they are finished, not before. If it ever disagrees with the Suite Index, the Suite Index is correct.

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The book

  1. BookThe whole book26 chapters in three parts, and an afterword, each as the book text and an expanded versionfree
  2. Part OneYourselfThree chapters: then, now and nextfree
  3. PrefaceThe work nobody seesPart Two, Between us, starts herefree
  4. Ch. IWhy we get out of tunefree
  5. Ch. IIIs the split working?free
  6. Ch. IIIFull tanks and different anglesfree
  7. Ch. IVTwo kinds of fairfree
  8. Ch. VThe monthly look-backfree
  9. Part ThreeUnderstanding peopleSeventeen chapters: feelings, stress, trust, change, grief, healing, anger, personality, love, worry, groups and morefree
  10. AfterwordWhat the book adds up toSix threads through the book, and where to go from herefree

Workpapers

  1. WP-01Who did what, and kind ways to say nofree
  2. WP-02How much are you carrying?free
  3. WP-03One owner per jobfree
  4. WP-04What keeps coming back?free
  5. WP-09Say it so it landsfree
  6. WP-11Calm-down planfree
  7. WP-12Same moment, different speedsNew · when one of you is fast and one is slowfree
  8. WP-13The 90-second daily check-infree
  9. WP-14Is it us, or is it everything else?New · a one-week log of outside pressure and friction between youfree
  10. WP-15Keep your little rituals aliveNew · a check every few months on your shared ritualsfree

Tools, calculators & program

  1. ToolHow I like to be spoken to: a cardNew · a one-page card for how you receive words. Nothing is saved unless you choose.free
  2. ToolThe Chat analyzerNew · how a phrase may land for someone wired differently, or where a whole thread turnedfree
  3. GuideCheck-insNew · one topic, no blame, no criticism of the person, and the steps for a hard conversationfree
  4. ToolRewind the talkNew · a guided session for the moment a conversation goes wrongfree
  5. ToolWho does what?Who does each job at home, and the bills, for 2 to 8 peoplefree
  6. ToolSoften a tense momentA printable plan builder, five scenarios and a four-week practice planfree
  7. ToolRhythms side by sideYour natural rhythms for money, decisions, check-ins and recoveryfree
  8. ToolFrequency Sync VisualizerA moving picture of how a daily check-in keeps two people in stepfree
  9. CALC-01Is the setup working for everyone?free
  10. CALC-01Is the setup working for everyone? (full)New · hours and jobs for 2–8 people, with the math step by stepfree
  11. CALC-02Look back over 30 daysNew · then and now: what shifted, what didn’t, and one next stepfree
  12. CALC-02Look back over 30 days (full)New · four weeks side by side, with the running imbalancefree
  13. REPORT-01The Full ReadYour week-by-week recordfree
  14. PROG-01The 6-Week ProgramA guided path through the live workpapersfree
  15. Fill-inFill-in workpapersWP-01, 02, 03, 04, 09, 11, 12, 13, 14 and 15 on screen, saved as PDFs or fillable PDFs on your own devicefree
  16. SuiteYour worksheets, in order, with a reportNew · choose your road, fill in its workpapers in order, get one fillable PDF and a grouped reportfree

Guides, everyday tools & the calm corner

  1. DailyMy weather todayA one-minute read on your own conditions, with an optional 7-day logfree
  2. GuideWired DifferentlyHow different kinds of wiring receive the same wordsfree
  3. GuideTurning TowardNew · seven small, everyday ways to feel closerfree
  4. GameThe Re-check DriveNew · a calm football game: real, kind actions move the ball toward a field goal. No clock, no way to losefree
  5. GuideComplacencyNew · why “it’s fine” stops being checked, in you and in every kind of relationship, and the small re-checks that keep things alivefree
  6. ChatChat with Professor PuddlesNew · answers made only from this site’s pagesfree
  7. GamesCalm gamesNew · the calm games, including the Night Garden and the Arcadefree
  8. AudioBrain BreakersFour instrumental pieces to see and feel. Optional.free
  9. GuideThe Five PillarsNew · the five ideas under everything here, and where each one shows upfree
  10. GuideKnow your own wiringNew · what’s you, what life taught you, and what can changefree
  11. LibraryThe Professor’s LibraryNew · short, plain-language entries on psychology and conflict, tied to the Five Pillarsfree
  12. ArticlesArticles to readNew · hand-picked articles from trusted sources, grouped by topicfree
  13. LearnYour quest mapNew · “Check yourself” moments on reading pages, and a map that lights up as you learnfree
  14. CalmDriftNew · slow, deep 3D colors and binaural tones (headphones on)free

Books, cartoon and app

  1. BooksBooks and downloadsThe four books, the workbook, the pocket guide and four books for kids as PDFs. Each PDF asks for your email once. Reading everything online never does.free
  2. CartoonFrequency BuddiesSeason 1 (five episodes) and Season 2 (three episodes so far), with captions, plus the theme song music video and a live channelfree
  3. AppGet the appPut the whole site on your phone or computer, with its own icon, full screen and offline use for pages you have openedfree

What comes next

Everything that has been designed is now live. More may follow, each added the day it is finished. New cartoon episodes are added as they are finished.