Tool · nothing leaves your device
Who does what? Chores and bills at home
Also called the Lemonade Stand
What it does: tap who mostly does each job, or list the hours and bills for one person or a whole home. What you get: a plain picture of the split, where you agree and differ, and a fridge list. About 2 minutes for the quick look, 15 for the full stand
Also called the Lemonade Stand, and Who does what at home
List the jobs and the bills, and see who does what, or your own load.
Sharing work in a business or team? Use the team one-owner list →
For households where everyone feels safe. If anyone is afraid or controlled, a shared list can be used to check up on someone. See Not safe at home?
Quick look: who does what at home
Tap who mostly does each job. The picture builds as you go, the thinking work too. About two minutes, and nothing leaves this device.
Your full stand, with hours and bills, is kept on this device.
Your names (optional)
Show more jobs
Tap to put a job on the list above. Baby, caring, pets, paperwork, and work nights are here too.
Spread Love & Acceptance · The Lemonade Stand, quick look
How it looks
Kept on this device so it’s here next time. Never sent anywhere.
For just you, or for two to eight people who share a home. List what it took to keep life running this week, from the dishes to remembering the dentist, and about how long each job took. Just me shows your own week as a ledger: where your time and attention go, the thinking work nobody sees, and your rest. Me and others shows the split as a plain fact, not a verdict on anyone.
Who is this for?
Pick one to start. You can switch any time, and your entries stay put.
New baby: three steps
- The starter pack. The usual baby jobs, with typical minutes.
- Your minutes. In the list below, change each time to fit your week. Leave the other person’s boxes for them.
- Send my side.
How much time do you have?
The fridge list gives each job one owner, no counting. You can do both.
Who's at the stand? Tap a name to change it.
Who’s filling in on this device right now?
On two devices? Each of you fills in your own side, then you bring the two together here. Nothing is uploaded: you send a link between you.
Keep this on this device so it’s here tomorrow?
“Send everyone the full picture” sends every side on this device and the fridge list in one link, for the group chat, so nobody has to add the sides one by one.
Send the link any way you like: a text, an email, a chat. Tapping it on the other device shows a preview before anything is added. Going to the Workpaper Suite instead? Use “Use this in my Workpaper Suite” under the result.
Other ways: copy the code, or save a file
On the other device, open the Lemonade Stand, tap “Add the other person’s side” and paste the code, or open the file.
People are matched by name. New jobs and bills are added, and blanks are filled in. Where both devices have different numbers for the same job, you choose what to keep. Nothing is replaced on its own.
The task library
Tap a kind of job, then tap a task to add it. Typical minutes are filled in; change them to fit your week. Count your work, your rest and the thinking part too.Each person fills in only their own side.
Tasks you add fill in the time for (or pick who on each job):
This week’s list
One line per job: how often it happens, and about how long it takes each personyou each time. Rough is fine. Open “More” on a job to count the noticing, planning and remembering that goes with a job, and who notices first.
One line per cost, like rent, power, internet or groceries. Put what each person actually paid. A cost can be shared, one person’s own, an agreed amount that isn’t split (like money sent to family), or a savings goal you keep (like “Our savings, 200 a month”). Savings and family amounts are counted in each person’s total, never owed between you. If you like, add “Money coming in” to see what’s left. Leave this empty if money isn’t part of your picture.
Saving for something? See roughly how long a goal takes
Put a monthly amount on a line shared as “Savings, kept” above (like “Our savings, 200 a month”), then the goal here, like a house deposit.
Keep this on this device so it’s here tomorrow?
Add some hours above to see how the work is split.
Fair isn’t always even. Paid work, part-time hours, a new baby, health, an illness or disability, being retired, or a child who lives here part of the time can all change what feels fair. You might agree on something like 60/40, or keep an even split. Paid hours don’t show energy: if one of you is ill, see when one of you is ill. Three or more of you? Each share is compared with an even share, or with the split you set. The split you set is used for shared bills too.
Work nights or shifts? Add “Night shift” and “Recovery sleep after a night shift” from Work & school in the task library: they count with paid work, not as rest. (The nights just below are about who lives here.)
Someone lives here only part of the time, like a child who’s here every other weekend? Set the nights they’re here out of 14, and their fair share follows. Tick “Child” for children, to get an adults and kids suggestion. (A split you agree on, above, takes the place of this.)
Optional, and either of you can tick it. Each person fills in only their own side, so it’s worth a look together. The copied summary says whether you have.
How to read it
Show the maths
By area
Work you can see, and work you can’t
My week, as a ledger
Keep this on this device so it’s here tomorrow?
Sustainable or stretched?
This reads time, not how you feel. Only you know that, and the numbers are rough on purpose.
Where my time and attention go
The invisible part, made visible
Hand off, drop, simplify or schedule
Your biggest jobs, largest first. Tap what you’d like to do with each one. There’s no right answer, and “keep” is a fine choice.
Explain your load to others
A plain summary you can send or read out. It says what your week holds and what would help, without blaming anyone.
More options: a split you choose, someone who lives here part of the time, week by week, how it works: week by week, how it works
Week by week
How the words are chosen
With two people, the bigger share under 60% reads as fairly close, 60% or more as leaning one way, and 90% or more as nearly all. With three or more people, a share of 1.5 times an even share or more reads as leaning one way, and anything less as fairly even. Exactly equal hours read as an even split. These are plain descriptions of what’s written down, never a verdict.
The evenness score is a score out of 1, not a share of the work. It’s Chapter II’s balance score: 1 means the hours match an even share (or the split you set), and 0 means one person did everything. When someone is 5 points or more over the split you set, the result says so in plain words, whatever the score. When someone is more than about 3 hours a week away from their share, the result says so in plain hours, whatever the score. 0.70 or more reads as holding, 0.40 up to 0.70 as drifting, and under 0.40 as worth a kind rethink. The split counts home jobs plus their thinking part. Work, school and rest are shown beside it, never in it.
Your load is your home and life jobs, their thinking part, and your work and school hours. It’s compared with a waking week of about 112 hours (16 a day). Under half spoken for reads as looks sustainable, half up to 70% as full but workable, and 70% or more as stretched. Rest under about half an hour a day is called thin. It reads time, never a person.
Invisible work is the thinking part of any job, plus all of “Planning & remembering” and “Emotional work”. Each job’s time is turned into a week: each day counts 7 times, weekdays count 5, 3 times a week counts 3, and each month counts about a quarter.
Next steps
- You are here: the Lemonade Stand shows the split, and the Money tab shows the bills and who owes whom.
- One owner per job: give each job one owner, the noticing included. Start with the fridge list below.
- A weekly 10-minute house meeting: the weekly version of the 90-second daily check-in. How full everyone is, one thank-you, one thing that slipped.
- Only if you still disagree about who does what: Who did what, one ordinary week, each person on their own side.
- Is the setup working for everyone?: put these totals in, with ownership and stress, for one calm read.
- The Chat analyzer: check how your ask will land before you send it.
- Chapter II: balance, ownership and stress, and why the setup is never a verdict on a person.
- Who did what: for a fuller picture, jot down one ordinary week as it happens.
- One owner per job: when you hand a job off, hand off all of it, the remembering included.
- The Chat analyzer: check how your summary or your ask will land.
- Check-ins: a calm time to bring it up, when you’re both rested.
- Is the setup working?: if you share the load with someone, the calculator reads the whole setup for you both.
- Chapter II: seeing your own share honestly, as a setup you can redesign, not a flaw in you.
Opens the Workpaper Suite with your names, jobs and hours filled in. Nothing is uploaded: it travels in the page address, after the “#”.
How your data is kept
A copy for this tab keeps it safe from Back or an interruption.
Nothing you type or choose is sent anywhere. While this tab is open, a draft is kept in this tab only, so pressing Back or stepping away doesn’t lose it; it’s gone when you close the tab or press “Clear”. A side from someone else that you haven’t added yet is kept the same way, so Back brings its preview back. Once you enter something, the stand (with any weeks you save) is also kept on this device, in this browser only, so it’s here next time, like the quick look. “Forget it” or unticking “Keep this on my device” keeps it in this tab only; “Erase” removes it. The page also remembers, on this device, whether you picked “Just me” or “Me and others”; “Erase” removes that too. This tab also keeps your names and your “who is this for” choice, so a reload doesn’t ask again; closing the tab or “Clear” removes them.
Once two or more names are in, “Use these names in the other tools” is ticked for you (untick it any time, and it stays unticked). While it’s ticked, just the names and the home jobs with how often they happen (never the hours), and any split you set, the nights someone is here and who’s a child, are kept in this browser, so the worksheets and calculators can offer them instead of asking again; untick it to forget them.
“Send my side” makes a link, a code or a file on your device; it only goes where you send it yourself. In a link, your side sits after the “#”, which browsers never send to a server, and the page clears it from the address bar once it’s read.
The Lemonade Stand puts Pillar I (“See the whole load”) to work, with a nod to Pillar V, Notice the quiet incentives. In you: you count the hours you really put in, including the quiet jobs and the thinking part, and see your own week as it is. Between you and others: you all see the same picture, and can spot work that has quietly drifted to one person.
No project needed: one owner per job
Skip the week of logging. Pick the jobs you go back and forth about most (up to ten, or sixteen with three or more people), give each one an owner with one tap, then put the list on the fridge: print it, save a PDF, or send it as text. Owning a job means you do it, or you make sure it gets done.
Whose list is it? Type your names, so the list says who owns what (not “Me” and “Them”).
1. Pick the jobs (tap to add or take off)
That’s ten, the most for one list. Swap one out to add another.
2. One owner each
Nothing picked yet.
Keep this list on this device so it’s here tomorrow?
How to use it: Pick Just me to see your own load, or Me and others to see the split. Add jobs from the task library or type your own. In a shared home, each person fills in only their own hours, then you look at it together. On two phones, tap “Send my side” on one and “Add the other person’s side” on the other. “Copy for the group chat” gives a short, friendly version to paste in. The next steps are listed under your result.
Prefer paper? Print the free fair chore chart (for couples, families and housemates), and read invisible labor and the mental load for the jobs people forget to count.
This is for seeing the same picture, not a score to win with. Nothing you type or choose is sent anywhere; “How your data is kept”, just above, says where it stays.