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Every free tool on this site, in sections by type. The sections you can use on your own come first, so you can try things for yourself and invite someone later if you want. What you type stays on your device.
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What you want to do, who it’s for, how long you have, or Spanish. Pick as many as you like.
Start here: 6 tools you can use on your own
The most useful places to begin, just for you. Nothing here needs anyone else.
How we picked them: see how “Most useful first” works.
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Self-discovery paths
On your own: two or three tools, in order, with one line on why.
Paths for when you’re ready to involve someone
Self-discovery
Show only theseJust you, first: short quizzes and checks on how you think, feel and react.
- How you connectStop people guessing how to reach you: a 2-minute style quiz, plus two cards to share.
- Read your wayMake every page suit how your mind works: shorter steps, a calmer look, read-aloud.
- Old rules, new choicesChoose which old rules to keep: look gently at where a reaction started.
- Rhythms side by sideStop different rhythms feeling like a fight: money, rest and decisions, side by side.
Communication
Show only theseSay it so it lands, read what they really meant, and stay close.
- Chat analyzerSee how a text will land, or read a whole chat clearly.
- Stay closeFeel closer without a big plan: one small idea, or the words that say “this is us”.
- Write it throughSort out a big topic without a shouting match: one topic, in writing, at your own pace.
- Rewind the talkTurn a talk that went sideways into a better second try, with their side in view.
- Kitchen-table check-inRaise small things before they grow: a short, kind weekly talk, or a family plan.
Calm
Show only theseSettle your body, check how you’re doing, and get ready for next time.
- Cool-down cornerStop a fight getting worse: settle in five minutes now, or plan a kinder pause for next time.
- My weather todayKnow if now is a good time to talk: four taps, or one minute on mood, sleep and energy.
Learn and play
Show only theseAsk in your own words, explore an idea, or play a calm game with no timers and no way to lose.
- Ask Professor PuddlesGet kind next steps for your exact situation: type it the way you’d tell a friend.
- Ten-minute startThe quickest way in: four small steps, and a “here’s what I got” to keep.
- Gentle gamesTake a breather before you talk: arcade, word games and crosswords, with no way to lose.
- Learn by doingGet a feel for it all first: practise on a made-up home, and watch ideas move.
Ready to bring someone in? The next sections are mostly for two or more of you.
Home and family
Show only theseSee who does what at home, check the split is fair, and make plans everyone can keep.
For families: a family plan (in the Kitchen-table check-in), and in Plan it once, your terms for a family event, a festival year and a handoff bag for two homes.
- Who does what?Settle “who does more?” with facts, not blame: tap who does each job, then compare.
- Fair split checkKnow if your split can last, and whether what you changed is working, this week or over a month.
- Plan it onceSettle it once, kindly, and both keep it: holidays, family days, screen time, rooms, shifts.
Work
Show only theseA fair workload and a short weekly round for a team or small business.
- Team job listNo job lands on whoever notices first: owners, backups and a 10-minute weekly round.
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Workpapers, kept separate
Workpapers are fill-in worksheets you print or fill in on screen (13 here). They aren’t tools, so they aren’t in the sections, the filters or the order above. Each of you fills in your own, then you read them together.
- WP-01 Who did what this week: a one-week logLog who did what at home for one week, the invisible jobs too.
- WP-03 One owner per job: a who-owns-what listGive every regular job one owner, a backup and what “done” means.
- WP-04 What keeps coming back? A monthly look-backOnce a month, look back at four weeks together.
- WP-09 Before you reply: say it so it landsA quick self-check before you answer something that stung.
- WP-11 Calm-down planOn a calm day, decide your early signs, a pause signal and what settles you.
- WP-12 Same moment, different speedsFor five everyday moments, each person marks how fast they want to move, how much they want to talk, and how urgent it feels.
- WP-13 90-second daily check-inOne sentence each, once a day: how you are doing and what is coming up. No debating.
- WP-14 Is it us, or is it everything else?For one week, a line each evening: outside pressure in one column, tense moments between you in the other.
- WP-15 Keep your little rituals aliveEvery few months, list the small habits you share and mark which are alive, fading or stopped.
- Chart Printable chore chartA chart for every job, including the invisible ones, with one owner each.
- Suite Your worksheets, in order, with a reportChoose your road (just me, a couple, a home, a family, a team). Fill its worksheets one at a time, or all of them in one PDF.
- PROG-01 Six gentle weeksOne small step a week, in order, alone or with anyone you share a home with. Start with a five-minute week 0, and add a reminder for each week to your own calendar.
- REPORT-01 Your progress, week by weekType in what your worksheets produced each week.
How “Most useful first” works. The sections you can use on your own come first, because most people try things for themselves before they bring anyone else in. Within each section, the tools that help the most people, the fastest, come first. Every tool is free, needs no account, and keeps what you type on your device.
Looking for guides and reading as well? Everything on this site lists every page with filters for who it’s about and how long you have. To see or erase what the tools keep, open What’s stored on this device.