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Plan it once: make a plan together
Also called Make a plan together
What it does: six small plans for the things that keep coming up. Pick one, fill it in together or on your own, then send it so the other person can change it. What you get: a plan you both keep.
Some things go better when you settle them once, on a calm day, instead of in the moment. Pick the one that fits. Each template opens inside the guide it belongs to, so the reasons and the words you could use are right there with it.
- Our festival yearList the festivals and big days from both traditions, and who goes where. Then tell both families in one go.Two traditions, two sets of in-laws · about 10 minutes
- Set your terms for a family eventWhat you’re happy to do, what you’re not ready to talk about yet, and one ask. Copy it into your own message.A wedding, a funeral, a big birthday · about 5 minutes, on your own
- Time-together dealGame nights, a heads-up rule, a protected evening and phone-free times. Either of you can change it.Gaming or phones versus “us” time · about 10 minutes
- Room agreementQuiet hours, guests, cleaning and borrowing, from a common starting point. Send it to your roommate to change.Roommates, dorms, a shared bedroom · about 10 minutes
- Our week on one pageBoth schedules for the week, with sleep, the overlaps and one together time. Send it as a text.Night shifts, rotas, opposite hours · about 10 minutes
- Handoff-bag checklistA short list, the same in both homes, of what goes in the bag. Copy it, or keep one shared list.Co-parents, two homes · about 3 minutes
Private by design. What you type stays on your device. A plan you send travels inside the link itself, after the # sign, so it never reaches a website. Anyone who has the link can read it, so send it only to the person it’s for.
Other plans on this site
- The family plan card: visits, advice and routines with a parent or grown child. It’s part of the check-in card.
- A pause plan for arguments: how either of you can take a break, and when you come back. It’s part of Calm down.
- A fridge list of who owns what: one owner for every regular job at home.