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Guided journeys
Short paths of three to six small steps, for what’s going on in your life. Each step says what you’ll do, about how long it takes, and what you’ll leave with: a script, a plan, an agreement or a card. The journeys you can do on your own come first. Everything is free, and nothing you type leaves your device.
What’s going on?
Tap the closest. You’ll get one journey that fits, and one thing you can do in the next two minutes.
On your own
Start here even if someone else is involved. People usually explore on their own first.
After a breakup: steady againJust you · 6 steps · About two weeks, a few minutes a day
For the weeks after a relationship ends, whoever ended it. Gentle, on your own, at your own pace.
You’ll leave with: three basics for the hard days, a kinder sentence for yourself, a done list and a short “who I am now” list.
ReadAbout 5 minutes
Read what to expect in the first days, and the basics that help.
You’ll leave with: Three basics to keep going this week.
ToolAbout 1 minute
Take a one-minute reading of how you are, once a day.
You’ll leave with: A reading a day on this device, so you can see the waves get smaller.
ReadAbout 5 minutes
Find a kinder sentence for the hard moments.
You’ll leave with: One sentence to say to yourself.
ReadAbout 2 minutes
Write down one small thing you did today. Do it again tomorrow.
You’ll leave with: A done list that adds up.
ReadAbout 15 minutes
Work out what is yours: what you enjoy, and what you want next.
You’ll leave with: A short “who I am now” list.
ReadAbout 10 minutes
Plan one or two anchors for the evenings and weekends.
You’ll leave with: One regular thing that’s just yours.
If this keeps feeling too heavy, or you feel unsafe, outside help can make a real difference →
Know yourself in a weekJust you · 6 steps · One week, about 10 minutes a day
Six short looks at how you work. Nothing here needs anyone else.
You’ll leave with: your communication style, a care card, a one-page “how to talk to me” card, one pattern you understand better and the logic behind one of your reactions.
ToolAbout 1 minute
Check your mood and energy today, in four taps.
You’ll leave with: Today’s reading, and what tends to help on days like it.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Answer short questions about how you talk and listen.
You’ll leave with: Your communication style, in plain words.
ToolAbout 5 minutes
Pick what feels like care to you.
You’ll leave with: A care card to keep or share.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Look at one reaction of yours and where it may come from.
You’ll leave with: One pattern you understand a little better.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Make a one-page card on how you like to be spoken to.
You’ll leave with: A card that tells people what helps you.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Pick one reaction of yours that people misread, and lay out the logic behind it in six short parts.
You’ll leave with: A card that shows why your reaction makes sense, with one kind step.
Busy? Five minutes that helpJust you · 4 steps · Pick any one: each takes five minutes or less
No time? Each step stands on its own. Do one today, another tomorrow.
You’ll leave with: one small, useful thing a day: a reading, a better message, a clear request or a small idea.
ToolAbout 1 minute
Know where you are today, in four taps.
You’ll leave with: Today’s reading.
ToolAbout 2 minutes
Check one message before you send it.
You’ll leave with: Words that keep your point and land kindly.
ToolAbout 2 minutes
Turn one complaint into a clear, kind request.
You’ll leave with: A request to send instead of a complaint.
ToolAbout 1 minute
Get one small idea to do with someone today.
You’ll leave with: One small thing to do today.
Workpaper · optionalAbout 2 minutes
If you live with someone: one sentence each, once a day.
You’ll leave with: A tiny daily habit.
Family conflict: your terms, kindlyJust you · 5 steps · About a week, before a family event or a hard visit
For grown-up families: siblings, parents, in-laws. Start on your own; bring others in only if they’re willing.
You’ll leave with: your terms for the next event, kind ways to say no, and a family plan if others want one.
ReadAbout 5 minutes
Read how family rifts tend to start, without anyone being the villain.
You’ll leave with: Words for what is happening that blame no one.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Set your terms for the next family event: what you will do, and what you won’t.
You’ll leave with: Your terms, ready to keep or share.
ToolAbout 2 minutes
Find a kind, clear way to say no.
You’ll leave with: Three copy-ready ways to say no.
ToolAbout 15 minutes
If others are willing: fill in a family plan together.
You’ll leave with: A family plan card with a date to look at it again.
ReadAbout 5 minutes
Read about boundaries with a parent you love.
You’ll leave with: Words for visits and advice.
If this keeps feeling too heavy, or you feel unsafe, outside help can make a real difference →
With someone
For two people, or a family. Either of you can start alone and invite the other in later. Steps marked “Workpaper” are optional fill-in worksheets, kept separate from the tools.
Same argument again → one agreement we both keepTwo of you · 5 steps · About a week, with a look back after
From “here we go again” to one specific agreement, one calm step at a time. Either of you can start alone.
You’ll leave with: where your argument turns, a pause plan, and one written agreement with a date to check it.
ToolAbout 5 minutes
Paste the last argument over text, or a screenshot, to see where it turned.
You’ll leave with: Where the talk turned, and calm words that keep your point.
ToolAbout 15 minutes
Do the step-by-step reset: settle, see their side, try again.
You’ll leave with: Their side of the moment, and one sentence to bridge the gap.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
On a calm day, agree how either of you can pause, and when you come back.
You’ll leave with: A pause word, a return time and the first sentence back.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Write down one agreement you both keep, and when you will check it.
You’ll leave with: One agreement, written down, with a check-in date.
Workpaper · optionalAbout 15 minutes
Once a month: spot what keeps coming back, and fix one thing.
You’ll leave with: A monthly look-back sheet.
ToolAbout 5 minutes
When their reaction (or yours) still puzzles you, type what happened and see the logic behind it, with their side too.
You’ll leave with: One sentence to explain it, and one small step for both of you.
If this keeps feeling too heavy, or you feel unsafe, outside help can make a real difference →
One wants to talk now, one needs spaceTwo of you · 4 steps · A few days; the plan takes ten minutes
When one of you chases and the other pulls away. A way to pause that doesn’t feel like walking out, and a way back.
You’ll leave with: words for the pattern, a calm-down for the moment, and a pause plan you both agreed.
ReadAbout 5 minutes
Read why one of you chases and the other pulls away.
You’ll leave with: Words for the pattern that blame no one.
ToolAbout 5 minutes
For the moment it heats up: a five-minute pause, slow breathing and a time to come back.
You’ll leave with: A calmer body, and a time to return.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
On a calm day, agree your pause plan together.
You’ll leave with: A pause word, how long a break lasts, and the first sentence back.
Workpaper · optionalAbout 10 minutes
See where your speeds differ in five everyday moments.
You’ll leave with: Your speeds side by side, and one thing to agree.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
For the one who needs space: say it in writing, with a time to reply by.
You’ll leave with: A message ready to send, after a short wait.
Who does what → a fair planTwo of you · 4 steps · About a week
From “I do everything” to a plan you both think is fair. The list gets talked about, not each other.
You’ll leave with: a who-does-what picture, words for the invisible work, and a new split to try for a week.
ToolAbout 2 minutes
Tap who mostly does each job, the thinking work too.
You’ll leave with: A who-does-what picture you can both look at.
ReadAbout 5 minutes
Read about the work nobody sees.
You’ll leave with: Words for the invisible work, without blame.
ToolAbout 5 minutes
Check whether the setup works for everyone.
You’ll leave with: A plain answer: fair, or what to change.
Workpaper · optionalAbout 15 minutes
Give each job one owner and a backup.
You’ll leave with: A who-owns-what list.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Agree to try the new split for one week, and when you’ll look at it.
You’ll leave with: A one-week agreement with a check-in date.
Feel close againTwo of you · 5 steps · Two weeks, a little each day
For long-term couples who have drifted into “fine”. Small things, often, rather than one big gesture.
You’ll leave with: one small idea a week, your shared words and rituals, a time-together deal and one daily habit.
ReadAbout 5 minutes
Notice what has slipped into “fine”.
You’ll leave with: One thing you’d like back.
ToolAbout 2 minutes
Get one small idea that fits your time and energy.
You’ll leave with: One small thing to do together this week.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Write down your shared words, jokes and rituals.
You’ll leave with: Your touchstones list.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Agree a small time-together deal, phones and games included.
You’ll leave with: A time-together deal you both chose.
ReadAbout 5 minutes
Pick one small daily habit for turning toward each other.
You’ll leave with: One daily habit.
Workpaper · optionalAbout 10 minutes
Keep your little rituals alive.
You’ll leave with: A sheet of your rituals, and one to bring back.
Keep a good thing goodTwo of you · 3 steps · A light monthly rhythm, about 30 minutes a month
For couples who are doing fine and want to stay that way. A small routine that keeps small things small.
You’ll leave with: a weekly check-in habit, a fresh touchstones list, one new thing a month and a monthly look-back.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Once a week, a short check-in card, even when all is well.
You’ll leave with: A weekly rhythm that catches small things early.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Once a month, refresh your list of shared words, jokes and rituals.
You’ll leave with: An up-to-date touchstones list.
ToolAbout 2 minutes
Once a month, pick one new small thing to try together.
You’ll leave with: Something new on the calendar.
Workpaper · optionalAbout 15 minutes
Once a month, look back at what keeps coming back, and fix one thing.
You’ll leave with: A monthly look-back.
Long-distance: close while apartTwo of you · 6 steps · About two weeks, on your own time
Each of you does your part on your own time, in your own time zone, then you swap by link. Nothing is stored on our side.
You’ll leave with: a call rhythm that fits you both, two care cards side by side, a weekly check-in that works across time zones, and your shared rituals.
ReadAbout 5 minutes
Read about a call rhythm that fits both your days.
You’ll leave with: Ideas for a rhythm across time zones.
ReadAbout 2 minutes
See how swapping a tool by link works: your answers travel in the link, not through us.
You’ll leave with: Peace of mind about what you share.
ToolAbout 5 minutes
Each fill in your care card when it suits you, then swap by link.
You’ll leave with: Two care cards side by side.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Each fill in the weekly card in your own time zone, then send it back and forth.
You’ll leave with: A weekly check-in that works across the miles.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Start a shared list of your words and rituals, passed by link.
You’ll leave with: Your shared rituals, across the distance.
ToolAbout 1 minute
On hard days: each take a reading, and share it only if you both choose to.
You’ll leave with: Each other’s day, side by side.
Blended family: roles and kind boundariesTwo of you · 5 steps · Two or three weeks, at a slow pace
For stepfamilies and two homes. Going slowly helps: a warm adult first, a parent’s role later, if ever.
You’ll leave with: a stepparent role you both agree, calm handover words, a family plan card and a handoff-bag checklist.
ReadAbout 5 minutes
Read why going slowly helps a new family.
You’ll leave with: Realistic hopes for the first years.
ReadAbout 10 minutes
Talk through the stepparent role: a warm adult first.
You’ll leave with: A short description of the role you both agree.
ReadAbout 5 minutes
For two homes: words that keep handovers calm.
You’ll leave with: Words for handover day.
ToolAbout 15 minutes
Fill in a family plan card: routines, roles and a review date.
You’ll leave with: A family plan card.
ToolAbout 10 minutes
Make a handoff-bag checklist for the two homes.
You’ll leave with: A checklist that travels with the kids.
How the journeys work
- Labels: “Tool” opens a tool. “Read” opens a short page. “Workpaper” opens a fill-in worksheet, and is always optional.
- Ticks stay on this device. When you tick a step, only the tick and the date you started are kept here. Nothing you write in a tool is copied into the journey. You can clear it on On this device.
- Come back in a week. If you ask, the next time you visit after that date we’ll ask one short question, like “Did the agreement hold?”, on the home page and here. You can also add a reminder to your own calendar. It lives in your calendar; nothing is sent to us.
- Doing it with someone? This is for understanding each other, not for scoring points. Either of you can stop at any time. Nothing here is a verdict about a person. Share only what you’re comfortable sharing. More on working on it together.
Not sure any of these fit? Three quick questions point you to a first step, or ask Professor Puddles in your own words. All the tools are on one page.
Last updated: October 2026