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Read your way: make the site fit your mind
Also called How you take things in, and Make the site fit your mind
Minds take things in differently. Some people want the short steps first. Some want words that mean exactly what they say. Some would rather listen than read. Pick what fits you, and every page on this site adapts.
- Your wiring is information, not a flaw. Knowing how you take things in is useful, the way knowing your shoe size is useful.
- People vary within every neurotype. Two autistic people, or two people with ADHD, can want quite different things. So each choice shows exactly what it turns on, and you can untick any of it.
- It’s optional, and no labels are needed. Pick a neurotype, pick plain preferences, or both. Change it any time, or clear it all with one button.
- It stays on this device. Your choices are kept in one small setting in this browser and never sent anywhere. What’s stored on this device
1. How your mind works (optional)
Pick any that fit, or none. Each one turns on a few helpers, listed under it once you pick it.
Autistic and ADHD (sometimes called AuDHD)? Pick both. Don’t see yourself here? Go straight to the plain choices below.
2. Or just pick what helps
More helpers (10)
3. What changes
Nothing chosen yet, so pages look the usual way.
See it on a sample
This made-up sample changes as you pick. Your real pages change once you save.
A sample from a guide
Level up! A new flower
When a handover goes badly
Nothing here is graded. There’s no right answer and no rush, and you can stop at any point.
Carry on where you were (about 40% of the way down)
About 4 minutes to read (780 words, in 3 parts).
In short:
- Keep messages short and about the children.
- Pause before you reply to a hard message.
- Come back to it when you are both calm.
In short, as a picture
- Short messages, about the children
- Pause before you reply
- Come back when you’re both calm
Showing just the steps. Show the whole page
When a handover gets heatedturns into an argument, it helps to take it down a notchspeak more slowly and more quietly. Nobody is the bad guy here.
🐾 Bloop: You’ve totally got this, superstar!
Three steps
- Say hello to the children first.
- Hand over the bag and the notes.
- Save anything else for a message later.
- 01A handover is a few minutes, not a meeting.
- 02The children are watching how you two talk.
- 03A calm “see you Sunday” is a win.
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Pause: 4:59 left
Your pause is running. Take the time you need; there’s no clock to watch.
Something to read: an article about calm handovers, and a cartoon with the pups.
Tip on the Ask page: type simple English and Professor Puddles answers in short, everyday words.
Saving also sets a few switches in Settings, such as the text size or the reading ruler. You can change any of them there afterwards. “Clear them all” puts them back the way they were before.
More about how minds differ
- WavelengthA free quiz on how you think, talk and listen, with your wiring taken into account.
- The Wiring CardA one-page card about how you take in words and how a request lands best, to share if you like.
- Wired DifferentlyHow differently wired minds can hear the same words differently, and ways to share plans that land.
- Part Three, Chapter 9: Minds that work differentlyAutism, ADHD, sensory and learning differences, masking and energy, in plain words.