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Method and limits
The main scores on this site are written out here: what each one adds up, where the cut-offs are, and what it can’t tell you. These are simple, plain rules, chosen to start a conversation. None of them was fitted to data or tested as a diagnosis, and none of them predicts anything about your relationship.
| Tool | How it is worked out | Cut-offs | Status |
|---|---|---|---|
| How much are you carrying? (WP-02) | Five questions, each scored 0 to 4, added up and divided by 20. Result runs from 0 to 1, higher means heavier. | Under 0.30 low. 0.30 up to 0.60 medium. 0.60 and up high. | A gut check. Not a medical or clinical test. |
| The Lemonade Stand | Each person’s share of the hours written down. | Two people: under 60% “fairly close”, 60% or more “leaning one way”, 90% or more “nearly all”. Three or more: a share of 1.5 times an even share or more reads as “leaning one way”. | Describes what was typed in. It is not a verdict on anyone. |
| Is the setup working for everyone? (CALC-01) | Balance × 0.40, plus ownership × 0.35, plus (1 minus stress) × 0.25. Balance is 1 minus the share moved from the busiest person, and for two people reduces to 1 minus the gap between the two shares. | 0.70 or more: working well. 0.40 up to 0.70: needs a look. Below 0.40: needs a rethink, together. | The weights were chosen by hand, not estimated from real data. The result is not a probability and predicts nothing. |
| The Calm-Down Kit: coming back after a pause | After a round of calming steps, you re-score “How much are you carrying?” (above), from 0 to 1. | Under 0.50: go back at the time you named. 0.50 to 0.59: do another round. Still 0.60 or more after two rounds: put it off to a named time. | A rule of thumb. “Do I still feel hot?” comes first; the number is a second opinion. |
| Today’s weather | A tally from 0 to 100, higher means a heavier day. The sky sets the start (clear 0, gusty 26, foggy 34); pressure adds up to 20, sleep up to 18, time with people up to 14, body needs up to 14, worries blowing in up to 10. A skipped step counts as a small middle amount. | Under 45: lots of room today. 45 to 64: some room. 65 and up: very little room. The timing advice mostly follows the sky. | A reading of what you told it, not a measurement. Shown in words; the number appears only if you ask. |
| Where am I right now? | Four questions, each pointing to one of three states. The state with the most answers wins; on a tie, your body answer decides. | No numbers: calm and connected, revved up, or running on empty. | A best guess for you, about you. Never for labelling someone else. |
| Wavelength (also the communication style quiz) | Four lines, three either/or questions each: one side adds 2, the other takes 2 away. Statements you tap add or take away 1. The sign on each line picks the letter; a tie goes with your first answer on that line. | No cut-offs. “Strongly”, “mostly” or “leans” shows how far from the middle each line landed. | A way to describe what you prefer, not a personality test, and not a diagnosis. |
Why show this
- You can check the arithmetic yourself, so nothing is hidden behind a score.
- Round numbers like 0.40 are a sign they were picked for simplicity. Treat a result as a prompt to talk, not an answer.
- Other tools on the site, like the Lemonade Stand’s job lists and the check-ins, show what you typed in without scoring it.
- Anything typed stays in your browser. The tools never send your entries to us or anyone else.
Where the ideas come from
The tools borrow from well-known areas of research, such as the study of household labor, stress and how couples handle conflict. The Professor’s Library lists the sources and says plainly where the evidence is thin or debated. The scoring rules above are this site’s own simple rules, and are not taken from any published scale.
Try this: Pick one tool and read its rule here before you use it. Notice how little the number adds to what you already know, and how much the talk adds.
Last updated: October 2026