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What's Actually Live

A map of everything live today. Nothing more, nothing less.

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Everything listed below exists, has been reviewed, and is ready to use today.

Every item has its own page on the site, and all of it is free, with no sign-up, no account and no paid version.

For plain counts of what is live, see the Rollout Status.

What this index covers: the manuscript, the workpapers and the calculators, which are the tools the framework is built from. Audio is a separate project with its own catalog and is deliberately not listed here. No workpaper requires audio, and none ever will.

Start with these

Book The whole bookbook/ — 26 chapters in three parts, and an afterword, each in a short and a full version, free to read. The chapter list is below. Page
Tool The Lemonade Stand & Today’s WeatherFree interactive tools, each on its own page. Today’s Weather holds the one-minute nervous-system self-check (once called the Nervous System Ladder). The Lemonade Stand totals feed the workload balance in “Is the setup working for everyone?” (CALC-01). Page
Tool Wiring Cardwiring-card.html — fill in how you receive words, what silence means, what to avoid, and how a request should be phrased. Print or copy. It stays on your device, kept only if you choose to. Not a diagnosis. Added September 24, 2026. Page
Tool The Chat analyzersignal-translator.html — choose each person's neurotype (or a mix), the relationship, the situation, the setting and a phrase. You can also add the plain facts and one reply. It shows how the phrase may land, plus a way to meet both people's needs. Runs in the browser; nothing you type is saved or sent. Added September 24, 2026. Page
Tool The Carrier Wave Decodercarrier-wave-decoder.html — a guided session for the moment a conversation starts going sideways: find what slipped on pace, register or urgency, settle, and try again. Notes stay in your own browser. Page
Guide Turning Towardturning-toward.html — seven small, everyday ways to feel closer to the people who matter to you, with a 7-day start. A reading page, not a tool. Page
Game The Re-check Driverecheck-drive.html — a calm football game made from the complacency playbook: real, kind actions (notice, ask, thank, share your side, ask for theirs) move the ball toward a field goal. No clock, no way to lose; kept only in the visitor’s browser. Script: assets/js/recheck-drive.js. Tool
Guide Complacencycomplacency.html — why “it’s fine” stops being checked, how it shows up in you, partners, family, friends, housemates and coworkers, how it differs from contentment, and small, regular re-checks. A reading page, not a tool. Page
Guide Wired Differentlywired-differently.html — how neurotypical, autistic, ADHD, dyslexic, dyspraxic, auditory processing (APD), developmental language disorder (DLD), Tourette, alexithymic, highly sensitive, anxious, trauma-wired and OCD receivers take in the same words, with sources. Added September 24, 2026. Page
Guide Check-inscheck-ins.html — ground rules first: one topic, no overload, no blame, no criticism of the person, and how to stop and regroup. Then the setting, the steps, and where the Chat analyzer fits. A reading page, not a tool. Added September 24, 2026. Page
Map Program Overviewprogram-overview.html — what each chapter argues and which instrument it pairs with. Page
— Printable Infographicinfographic.html — the Five Pillars, the Extraction Cycle, the Lemonade Stand, and the three kind ways to say no in one page. Page

The Book

26 chapters in three parts, and an afterword, each on its own page in a short and a full version. All of them are free to read, with no sign-up. You can also read the whole book on one page and print it or save it as a PDF.

Part One Yourself: then, now and nextThree chapters on where your lens came from, your wiring and your words, and who you are becoming. You can read all of it on your own. Page
Preface The work nobody seesPart Two, Between us, starts here: the quiet, unseen work of running a shared life, and why it deserves to be noticed. Page
Ch. I Why we get out of tuneHow pace, tone and urgency nudge two people out of sync, and how to get back in tune. Page
Ch. II Is the split working?A simple way to see whether the way you share the work can last. Pairs with WP-01 and “Is the setup working for everyone?” Page
Ch. III Full tanks and different anglesHow much of a reaction is left over from somewhere else, and which point of view each person is arguing from. Pairs with WP-02. Page
Ch. IV Two kinds of fairWhy most chore arguments are really arguments about what's fair, dressed up as arguments about dishes. Pairs with WP-03. Page
Ch. V The monthly look-backWhy you need a monthly look-back on top of the weekly check-ins. Pairs with WP-04. Page
Part Three Understanding peopleSeventeen chapters on how feelings, stress, trust, change, grief, healing, anger, personality, worry, groups and love work, for anyone, in any kind of relationship. Page
Afterword What the book adds up toSix threads through the book, and where to go from here. Page

The Order to Use Them In

Every workpaper works on its own, but they were built to be picked up in sequence. Used all at once, they turn into paperwork, and that is the most common reason a household gives up in week two.

WP-01 → WP-02 → WP-03 → WP-09 → WP-13

Read CALC-01 once the first three have produced numbers. Pick up WP-04 monthly after that. PROG-01 paces the whole sequence across six weeks if you'd rather be walked through it, and REPORT-01 is where each week's figures get recorded so the picture builds up instead of resetting.

If you're new: start with WP-01 and keep one week of Who did what before touching anything else. If things feel urgent right now: WP-02, then WP-09. If the same argument keeps coming back: that's a WP-03 problem, not a communication problem.

Workpapers

The numbering has gaps because the numbers come from the order of an early plan. Only finished workpapers are listed. Every live workpaper can be filled in on screen, downloaded as a fillable PDF you can type into or print, or done together in the Workpaper Suite, which lines them up for your kind of relationship and makes one report from them.

WP-01 Who did what, and kind ways to say noThe 7-day log of who did what plus 21 scripted scenarios for declining or deferring a task. Produces the workload balance figure. Use it first, then for one week each quarter. Page
WP-02 How much are you carrying?A five-question checklist that each person fills in about themselves, separately. Produces the leftover-stress figure. Use daily, and before any hard conversation. Page
WP-03 One owner per jobAssigns one owner and one backstop to every recurring task. Produces the ownership clarity figure. Use after two weeks of audit data, and amend whenever life changes. Page
WP-04 What keeps coming back?A monthly look-back across four weeks of Who did what logs, classifying each repeat deficit as a structural gap, a capacity issue, or a one-off. Monthly, not weekly. Page
WP-09 Say it so it landsConverts a raw reaction into fact, feeling and ask before you send it, and weighs what you just received before you answer it. Use in the moment, on one thing that actually stung. Page
WP-11 The Calm-Down KitA kit of sensory ways to calm yourself, for interrupting a sudden stress spike before a hard conversation. Page
WP-13 90-second daily check-inA 90-second daily check-in (load, appreciation, friction, ask) with no debate and no rebuttal. The one habit meant to outlive the rest of the system. Page
WP-12 Same moment, different speedsWhen one of you wants to sort it now and the other needs time: map each person’s speed in five everyday moments, then agree one small fix. Page
WP-14 Is it us, or is it everything else?A one-week log that keeps outside pressure (work, money, sleep, illness) apart from friction between you, and ends in a plan. Page
WP-15 Keep your little rituals aliveA 15-minute check every few months: which shared rituals are alive, fading or stopped, and one to restart. Page

Calculators & Program

CALC-01 Is the setup working for everyone?Takes the figures the workpapers produce and returns a single 0–1 read on whether the current workload arrangement looks sustainable. It scores the arrangement, never either person. Runs in your browser and sends nothing; the long form keeps your entries on this device only if you choose. Page
CALC-02 Look back over 30 daysHow things were about a month ago next to how they are now: who did what, last-minute rescues, everyone’s load and jobs with an owner. A plain read of what shifted, what didn’t, and one next step. There is also a quick version. On your device only. Page
REPORT-01 The Full ReadWhere everything comes together. It records what each workpaper produced, week by week, and writes up the findings no single tool can see: where the figures agree, where they contradict each other, and which contradiction matters. Your ledger is a file you save and reload; nothing is stored in the browser. Page
PROG-01 The 6-Week ProgramA guided sequence through the live workpapers in a deliberate order, one tool at a time, ending in a second read you can compare against the first. Page

What the Scores Will Never Use

The scores (CALC-01 and REPORT-01) never use tone of voice, recordings, message sentiment, response timestamps, or anything describing one person without their direct part in entering it. Each person enters their own side. (Tools like the Chat analyzer look at messages you paste in, on your device only, and give no score.) None of this is a validated clinical or statistical tool, and if a number is ever used to end a conversation rather than start one, it's being misused.

What Comes Next

Everything that has been designed is now listed above. More may follow; each is added the day it is finished. If you see any chapter, workpaper or calculator referenced elsewhere as already complete and it is not listed above, that reference is wrong. Within its stated scope, this index is the current source of truth.

New material gets added to this index the same day it goes live, not before.