Before you start
Is this right for you?
Spread Love & Acceptance helps you understand your own stress and reactions, then gives two people a fair way to see what each of you carries. This page helps you decide if it fits.
Self-help, not therapy. Built from published research (see the Library), not clinically tested. Not for relationships where anyone is afraid (see Not safe at home?). Counselors, coaches and group leaders: a page for you.
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It's a shared ledger, not a scorecard.
Each person fills in worksheets about themselves, then you read them together. It isn't therapy, a diagnosis, or a way to prove who's right. Every score describes how things are shared, never a person.
Dig deeper: what it is and isn't -
It fits when the same disagreements keep coming back.
It helps when one person carries work the other can't see, and when you're both willing to write down your own side honestly. You can also start on your own. If you’re afraid of your partner, it isn’t the right tool: see Not safe at home? instead.
Dig deeper: who it's for -
All of it is free.
Everything is open to everyone: no sign-up, no account, nothing locked and no paid version.
Dig deeper: ways in -
Every page is listed in one place.
The full directory groups every live page by what it's for: the book, the worksheets, the tools and more.
Dig deeper: where everything is
Try this: Read how it fits the relationship on your mind, then pick one tool to start with.